Saturday, January 24, 2026

My Hopes For This Year

 My Hopes For This Year 

(Belatedly)


So it's only a week until the end of the first month of the year, and it's rather late to be posting about my plans for the new year.  But January is always an awful month for me, so I don't really make any plans for it, as I know they could easily fall by the wayside, or get eaten up by the black dog that always seems to snap at my heels during this month.  So I tend to see my year beginning in February. Maybe I should move to China? 

One thing I'd like to achieve in 2026, is to dress fully at least once during each calender month. It seems a simple task, but I haven't achieved it since 1978, when I was a young teenager enjoying my first year of being a crossdresser. Of course, that means that I have to pull my finger out and beat my January blues to avoid falling at the first hurdle. So I'm definitely going to dress next week, come hell or high water (both of which seem entirely possible at the moment). And I'll have to try harder, not to lose my dressing momentum, which I'm afraid happened during the hot weather, last year. Dressing as my true self is so important to me, and I must continue to make the most of my opportunities. 

Last year I set an aim of going out dressed in public again. And I achieved that to a small extent, when I met up with my longstanding friend and fellow blogger, Nikki Kent. However, I feel there wasn't enough actual public interaction on this trip out. So I would like to have a proper trip out in public, and to interaction with people as Deeanna. I haven't done that since 2017. 

I hope to be able to have a few visits to my friend Veronica. Last year was a difficult one, and so I only managed one visit to her, and that visit was cut short by an incident back at home that I had to attend to. So I hope to spend some nice, uninterrupted time dressing with my friend.

The reason for my visit to Veronica in December, ending early, was that my Wife had a fall. Apart from attending medical appointments and quick trips out to the shops or the local garden centre, that was my only full day away from her and it ended early, because of her condition. That just isn't sustainable. I honestly think as things are, I'm going to end up completely depleted and breaking down in the next few months.  So we need to arrange some kind of respite care. My Wife has accepted the need for this. But she has done that before and then backtracked on the idea. And having mentioned it after the recent falls, she is now trying to brush the idea of respite care, under the carpet. So I'm determined to get something sorted out, even if she won't. So this will be the year that I get some support in my caring role.

A very important aim for this year is to improve my health and fitness as much as possible. Last year was a difficult year and I had some health problems which have caused me to lose a lot of physical strength and muscle. Given my age, this isn't good. If I don't try to turn things around now it could soon be too late. So I'm going to concentrate on building back my strength and losing as much fat as I can. I'd like to reduce my cholesterol to a safe level, without having to resort to horrible medications like statins. 

I haven't really got any outfits planned this year. I might revisit my pink vintage dress, with some cowgirl accessories to pay homage to Chappell Roan and the 'Pink Pony Club'. I'll keep my eye out for a pink fur trimmed cowgirl hat and some pink cowboy boots. 

I'm going to keep blogging and hopefully if things go well, I can keep the posts a little more positive, although I don't think I will be full on Posiblogging, given my life situation. 

I know it's going to be another difficult year, but I'm going to try to make the most of it, no matter what. 

Bring it on. 

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4 comments:

  1. A hug from me to help beat the blues. I also feel low in winter; less sun and feeling cold isn't good for anyone. Your love and care for your wife is noble and inspiring yet I do hope you find a solution for your care situation because you mustn't be imprisoned by someone else's needs. Sending best wishes for a pretty, dressy and happy year ahead. Sue xx

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    1. A very belated reply to say thanks your kind comments. I'm slowly returning to a happier state of mind after a very difficult Winter. Hopefully I'll be back on firm soon. I'm treating this as a year on which I make positive moves to regain some independence, but also keep looking after my Wife. xx

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  2. Deena, thank you for sharing so honestly about your hopes and challenges for the year. I really admire your determination to keep dressing as your true self and to reconnect with friends like Veronica, it sounds like those moments of freedom and expression are deeply important to you. Balancing caring responsibilities with your own needs is never easy, and it’s completely understandable that arranging some respite care feels urgent. I hope you can get that support in place so you can focus on your health, strength, and wellbeing too. Wishing you steady progress on your fitness goals, some joyful dressing adventures, and little pockets of positivity throughout 2026, you deserve them.

    Lotte x
    PS My sincere apologies for the late reply to this post

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    1. Thank you Lotte. It's always good to read your comments. It's proved to be a difficult start to 2026, but I'm slowly getting it back on track. Hopefully I will look back on this year as one where I found solutions to my problems and made it a positive one.

      Dee xxx

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