Tip Toe - A Fictional Drama
Like many in our community, I watched the Russell T Davies drama with much interest. It was a difficult watch. All of the actors were brilliant in this frightening tale of homophobia and right wing radicalisation. There were moments of humour to lift the otherwise bleak tone, especially from the lead character, Leo who was played by Alan Cumming. The story is basically about the radicalisation of Leo's next door neighbour Clive played by David Morrisey. He is increasingly homophobic and racist and seduced by conspiracy theorists. And when he discovers his own son is gay, he reacts with extreme violence against his gay next door neighbour, who has been helping his son to come to terms with who he is. It shows all of the hatred that is now being directed at the LGBTQ+ community, and how it's amplified and stoked into ideological hatred that dehumanises the members of this community of people. And it ends with the vicious and disgusting lynching of Leo, by Clive and his hate filled gang of followers. It's a tough watch from start to finish. It shows how a normal, reasonable person can become twisted and inhuman in how they perceive others who are different to them. How those who don't conform to normal can be vilified to the point of having their lives put in danger. And how the source of this hatred is coming from the internet and social media. It twists people into wrongly perceiving others to be against them, or to blame for problems in their lives. And the reactions are becoming increasingly violent and volatile, with the fires stoked by bad actors in society who are either filled with hate themselves, or have something to gain from this maelstrom of hatred. I have found myself feeling vulnerable and scared and very depressed after viewing this program. Thankfully not scared enough to hide away or walk away and bury my head in the sand. But it has unsettled me. I hope it affects those that see it, in a way that provokes a positive reaction against the awful situation that is portrayed.
However, despite being critically acclaimed and seem as a warning of the awful bigotry that us prevalent today, it isn't being agonised over and discussed at the highest levels, in the same way as Adolescence, the series about boys being indoctrinated by misogyny, was. There was no interview with the Prime Minister to address it and tell us how he watched with his children to educate them about homophobia, as he did with misogyny, following Adolescence. This is definitely something that needs to be addressed. A warning that needs to be heeded.
It was powerful as both a drama and a warning. However it was let down by a poor approach over a couple of issues. One of the characters, played by Elizabeth Berrington was Stephanie, who was Leo's best friend. She was also gender critical. A TERF. She expressed her point of view a few times in the program. Apparently Russell T Davies has friends who are TERFs and believes that we should be able to have sensible discussions with them over the trans issue, and if necessary agree to disagree. So does that extend to being able to discuss the rights to exist as a gay person with a homophobe, and then agree to disagree? Of course not. So I feel it gave the impression that transphobia is bad, but unlike homophobia not worth losing your friends over. So two tier bigotry. I believe that all bigots should be cut adrift, be it racism, misogyny, homophobia or transphobia. If you are a bigot, then I don't want to know you, and if you're friends are bigots, then you're a bigot too, to paraphrase the song, 'Racist Friend' by The Special AKA.
Another weak piece of writing came during the lynching scene, Clive suddenly feels remorse and begs his mob to stop. But it's too late. Leo is dead. This allows the viewer to almost see his death as an accident. Most bigoted thugs in that situation, don't have any qualms about seeing through their evil. Clive may be a victim of radicalisation, but by the time he is leading the lynching of Leo, he is beyond all redemption, and should not have been afforded that moment of showing his humanity.
Those points aside, it should be essential viewing for everyone, even if it is an incredibly difficult watch.
Tip Toe - The Reality?
Today, in the area of Cornwall where I live, there has been a shocking example of transphobic bigotry. It's Pride month, and in the spirit of that, the local library organised a storytelling and crafting event, with a couple of Cornwall's finest drag queens, Ginger and Roxie Moron. It was just a bit of fun for the children. Nothing more. No intentions of pushing any "Trans Ideology" as it's often referred to by gender critical fools. No just a couple of colourful entertainers reading some stories and colouring some rainbows and covering them in glitter. Not transgendered individuals, but men engaged in a craft that has been a British tradition for centuries. Female impersonation for entertainment. One of them, Ginger, even has a full beard. A lot of people, both children and parents were really looking forward to the event. Just a bit of colourful fun.
And then something ugly happened. Nasty comments and abuse began to be directed towards the library, and to Roxie and Ginger. There were death threats and abusive and homophobic and transphobic comments being posted. And then it became apparent that some of these bigoted idiots were threatening to turn up at the library and protest. And with that threat hanging over them, the library and the entertainers had no choice but to cancel the event, for the safety of the library staff, the entertainers and most importantly, the children. The last thing they would need is security guards or the police, escorting children and their parents into the venue, in some bizarre recreation of the black students being escorted into the high school at Little Rock, Arkansas in the 1960s, during the civil rights movement. The thugs planning to protest claimed to be doing it for the kids safety. I'm sure the children would be far more traumatised by right wing yobs, than a couple of guys who dress in frocks as an act. Entertainment. A bit of light hearted fun.
This is a screenshot of some of the comments these despicable idiots left on a local Facebook group.
Disgusting comments. It even references Hitler, as having the right ideas about burning gay and trans books. I think it's Hitler. The melt that posted it, spelt it Hilter! There were worse comments and direct threats made directly to the drag queens and to the library. What might have happened if the event went ahead? Would one of these fascist idiots have decided to make good on his threats.? Could someone have ended up hanging from a lamppost like poor Leo in Tip Toe?
This country has a long tradition of males impersonating women for entertainment, from Shakespearean actors, pantomime dames and ugly sisters (Shout out to Biggins), Les Dawson and Roy Barraclough's Cissie and Ada, Danny La Rue, Stanley Baxter, Dick Emery, Hinge and Bracket and the Blonde Bombsite herself, Lily Savage AKA national treasure, Paul O'Grady. And not forgetting Australia's housewife superstar Dame Edna Everage! How can any sane person see a threat to children from drag queens? Simple answer? They can't. It just suits their fascist bully boy agenda.
One heartening aspect of this awful situation is the amount of supportive comments being left in support of all those who were forced to cancel this event, especially the drag queens, Roxie and Ginger. It bears out the fact that despite these idiots being emboldened to behave in such a disgusting and thuggish way, there are plenty of people who will stand up to stop these facist scum. And I count myself as someone who will stand up against them.
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Thanks for sharing your review, Dee. I won't watch it as I was brought up in this sort of radicalised hate environment and it would bring up too much distress. But the rage over drag queen story time is typical of our times as is the aim to separate the T from the LGB to make it more vulnerable. Personally, I'd have gone ahead with story time so that the one or two haters who actually turned up, as is usually the case, would show the kids what a sad loser looks like, what hate drives you to be. Sue xx
ReplyDeleteThanks Sue. I found Tip Toe to be a very difficult watch, given that I occupy a very small part of the queer world. It really wasn't written for the likes of you and I, because we know how it is. It was intended to shock the complacent, and inform those who didn't realise the extent of homophobia and the implications of what is happening in the world right now. I know you had a difficult situation growing up, and don't need to be reminded of stuff like this.
DeleteI found the drag queens and their library event being cancelled to be very upsetting. It had to be cancelled. Threats were being made to library staff as well as the performers. There was even homophobic abuse being directed at a knitting group, who made crochet pride flags for the library window display. There have been many messages of support for all of those involved in organising this event. But a few negative ones too. Mostly implying that the drag queens are paedos, looking to groom the children. It's disgusting. The whole idea is for the kids to experience diversity at a young age, and know it's nothing to be hated or feared. And to let any kids who grow up feeling different, that it's ok to be different. They will be accepted and loved for who they are. It was a booked event and the parents who were attending were mostly doing so, to educate their children in the diversity of life, so that they grow up as non judgemental and considerate members of society. It's not going to indoctinate kids into becoming gay or trans or anything else. If they grow up gay or trans then that's what they are. They weren't brainwashed by drag queens. And statistics say 80% will grow up to be straight. But hopefully 100% will grow up being decent, tolerant and understanding, with no prejudices or hatred of others.
Dee xxx
A really powerful and thought-provoking post, Dee. I haven't watched Tip Toe yet, but from your description it sounds like a very difficult and uncomfortable watch, especially given the direction that public discourse around LGBTQ+ people has taken in recent years.
ReplyDeleteIt's frightening how quickly misinformation and online hatred can radicalise people and turn neighbours, friends, or communities against those who are simply trying to live their lives. The example you gave from Cornwall is deeply upsetting, a children's storytelling and craft event should be exactly what it sounds like: a bit of fun, creativity and inclusivity, not something that attracts threats and intimidation.
I also agree with your point about all forms of bigotry needing to be challenged. Whether it is homophobia, transphobia, racism or misogyny, the harm comes from the same place, seeing others as somehow less worthy of respect.
A very important post, Dee. I hope programmes like this encourage people to stand up against hate rather than allowing it to become normalised.
Thanks for sharing
Hugs
Lotte x
Thanks for your comments Lotte. I'm afraid that hatred of all kinds is on the rise. Sadly I don't think it's possible to make bigots change their opinions. But I think many more people are decent and don't share those views, and if they make it clear that these views are not tolerated by society, then the bigots shut up. That seemed to be happening, but in recent years, the noisy bigots are starting to feel emboldened. But I think that one way or another good will win out.
DeleteDee xxx